Tuesday, 9 February 2016

Gift #488

My message yesterday got me a lot of questions about relationships...
What kind of relationships make us happy?
How do we know if its right for us?
so here are some answers to it...

When we first encounter another person, we ask two questions—and, of course, they ask the same questions of us: “Can I trust this person?” and “Can I respect this person?”

The features revealed by these interrogatives are referred to as warmth and competence, respectively. Most of us believe competence to be the more important factor. However warmth, or, more properly, trustworthiness, is considerably more important than competence for establishing a strong social bond.

Competence is most highly valued only after trust has been established. Playing to our strengths without first establishing the rapport that leads to trust can bring us an outcome very different than the one we expect. Proficiency needs to be balanced against engagement to be recognized as valuable, and worthy of admiration.

I am sure each one of us would have preferred to have a relationship - be it professional or personal - with someone whom we can trust. Without the trust factor we really would not like to have a relationship with even the most competent person. (or even GOD)

The same goes with others too - a person who does not trust us will not be able to build a relationship with us inspite of having a lot of respect for us. Loss of such relationships is a gain as it frees us to build more meaningful relationships with others and eventually make us HAPPY!!!

Twinkle Thakkar ✨
Happiness and Health Coach

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