Friday, 15 April 2016

Gift #554

Last message we understood that happiness and goodness can be separate. There’s the “pleasure” type of happiness that comes from just eating ice cream but then there’s the warm kind of happiness that comes from helping friends. One is more rooted in getting what we want and the other is based on virtue/meaning. Happiness went with being a taker more than a giver, while meaningfulness was associated with being a giver more than a taker.

What kind of happy do we want to be?
And which one, in the end, is better?
Which do we chase/choose?

When we see others do morally good things like helping an old woman or donating to charity it can inspire a deeper and different type of happiness. It is called as “elevation.”

Elevation wasn’t just “feeling nice” — it was the warm, tingly feeling that moved hearts. Elevation didn’t just make people feel better — it motivated people to be better. It changed their behavior, become a better person oneself, and emulate the virtuous role model more generally.

So how do we not just get happy but make sure we get elevated?

1. Watch an inspiring movie - Seeing stories of others doing good makes you happier and makes you want to be good.
2. Write about the good moments - Thinking’s nice but writing is better.
3. Spend time with good people - Hang out with the good kids, like mom told you.
4. Do good to be good - Be the one who elevates others and karma can be a very real thing.

Twinkle Thakkar ✨
Happiness and Health Coach

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