Sunday, 3 April 2016

Gift #542

When a person is physically comfortable and no longer driven by fear of starving or freezing to death, emotional pleasure becomes a primary pursuit. The way we seek to experience physical pleasure and avoid physical pain, we seek emotional pleasure, and attempt to avoid emotional pain. Our emotional enjoyment, or what we can call happiness, is simply part of human nature.

Happiness may take many forms but it is the underlying motivator in most our decisions.

When we buy a car we want to feel good about the purchase. Feeling good is the end result we seek but there are many paths to get there.

# One person may worry about safety concerns with children in the car. In order to feel better emotionally they buy a large SUV.

# Another person may have strong beliefs about the environment and feels better when they satisfy these beliefs. They might buy a hybrid car.

# A third person may be frugal with their money and think it’s stupid to pay full price for anything. Not wanting to fall into their own belief criteria of being stupid, they buy a used car.

Each person’s means to feeling happy about their choice is a completely different path in car buying. The pursuit of happiness, or feeling emotionally good about the choice, is the principle motivator that was met with three different means. They feel better because they have satisfied the beliefs in the mind.

* Later, their beliefs may change and then they have to go shopping again.

If we aren’t aware of how belief structures limit happiness we are likely to try and change external factors in order to be happy. Trying to change factors we can’t control can lead to us feeling frustrated and powerless.

To create, and live in authentic happiness, we will need to learn not to blindly chase the false beliefs in the mind. We will have to pay closer attention to the end goal of emotion and not jump after the first idea the mind offers as a means to get there.

Twinkle Thakkar ✨
Happiness and Health Coach

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